Lucy’s Story Day 1: Calamity Strikes

(Update: On June 5, 2024 Lucy passed away and is in the arms of Jesus)

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June 1

This morning was beautiful just like every other morning had been this week. It was a beautiful start to the gift we were given of a sabbatical by our church. We had an amazing lake cottage in Maine and were simply enjoying life together on our last full day here. We were eating a quick lunch by the lake and the kids decided to try badminton in the front yard. Bethany and I were relaxing in the back when we heard screaming.

Due to a freak accident with a racquet that broke on a downward swing, a sharp piece had entered Lucy’s skull while she was sitting on the sideline and caused catastrophic injury. She was still breathing but unresponsive as I held her with Bethany crying out to God. Bethany went with EMS as I trailed with the kids and we got to a small children’s hospital. They immediately took her by helicopter to Maine Medical Center in Portland. Upon arrival she went right to the operating room where they removed part of her skull to relieve pressure and deal with her injury. She coded, they got her back, and they completed the surgery. In the PICU we are being told that there is a very slim chance she recovers. She is currently intubated, has no brain function but occasionally breaths on her own. We are praying for a miracle but our hearts hurt with incomprehensible pain. I have so many scattered thoughts and memories…

Four weeks ago she asked Bethany how to be with God and be saved. Bethany explained it to her and offered to pray with her, but “Miss Independent” wanted to do it herself. She went to her room and prayed to God to forgive her and that she believed in Jesus death and resurrection. What a gift.

We had family devotions yesterday where she asked to sing “ He Will Hold Me Fast”. She always loved that song.

I just taught on processing grief in the last Adult Bible Class I taught before sabbatical. Am I willing to submit to my own advice? Right now holding her hand I’m not sure, but I want to. I’ve been physically beating my chest asking for faith. I resonate with this quote I referenced in that class…

“Knock and it shall be opened.’ But does knocking mean hammering and kicking the door like a maniac?”
― C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed

I had been reading yesterday about phases in our spiritual lives where God shows us something hard and walks with us through it. I observed I have been a bit resistant to this in my journaling. Bethany and I then discussed Job as she finished her Bible reading plan with that book. Yesterday we were discussing how terrifying the book is. It’s even more so now. So gravely terrifying and mysteriously comforting.

I will update this post as I get information. Please pray…

– That God would be pleased to work a miracle and heal Lucy.

– That the enemy would not prey on our children. They are blaming themselves and taking it hard, however they do not yet know how serious it is.

– For our faith. We are hanging on but can’t imagine life without Lucy-goose. We are walking as dependent creatures. Even if God takes her to be with him, she is still precious to her Heavenly Father. We pray his rescue is physical now but know it ultimately comes at the resurrection.

For he will rescue the poor who cry out

and the afflicted who have no helper.13 He will have pity on the poor and helpless

and save the lives of the poor.

14 He will redeem them from oppression and violence,

for their lives are precious in his sight.

Psalm 72:12-14

342 thoughts on “Lucy’s Story Day 1: Calamity Strikes

  1. I don’t know you or your family but have spent time on lakes in Maine and am intimately acquainted with not wanting to tell God what is best and yet constantly asking for something for my child. I always go back to the story of the persistent widow. I know you are praying and knowing about complete healing for Lucy and year recognizing the Ultimate Healing. There is no earthly right way to pray. I would say pray without doubting. Don’t borrow sorrow from tomorrow. Don’t let medical science tell you what to do. And know that we will rejoice fully with you when the time for rejoicing is here.

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  2. My heart goes out to all of you, I know what it is like to go through this with a child. We don’t always see God plan through the trials, but our faith grows. I am coming in agreement with you that this will be Lucy’s testimony as she heals and has full restoration in Jesus name!! May God’s peace and comfort be with your family!!

    Isaiah 41:10 (NIV)“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” God promises to offer comfort to those who seek Him. When pain and illness hit you or loved ones, remember this comforting.

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  3. we are praying in NC and sent out a prayer chain to others here !! Love to you all !!!

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  4. We live in Portland area and have extra rooms. We are family of Pastor Tim and Dorothy Barnes in Hewitt, NJ. We are praying so much for healing and His strength for all of you. Please call if we can assist with housing or whatever. David & Jane Odenbach 989-332-3641

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  5. Praying God’s mercy and healing for your precious child. Praying for peace and comfort for you all. May the Lord be near you during this most terrible time. 🙏🏻🩷🙏🏻

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  6. I have not stopped praying since I heard💕😞 I hurt with you, I am crying with you and pleading all day for you😢

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  7. Your words deeply moved me to tears. What horrid news!!! You do not know of me, your cousin shared this with us to pray! I just lost my husband not too long ago, and how your hurt opens up the wounds of grief all over again. Grief is tragic and death was never meant to happen and so hence this pain GOD never intended is thrust upon us!
    oh how I pray a miracle for your little one ! Our God is AMAZING and in the miracle business!!!! I long to hear your updates. I hope you’ll be able to provide them. We have added Lucy to our local church prayer chain. ♥️

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  8. Jesse, Bethany and children,

    Constant prayers for each of you (especially precious Lucy)

    10 Things God wants you to remember:

    1. I will give you rest

    2. I will bless you

    3. I will not fail you

    4. I will strengthen you

    5. I will provide for you

    6. I will answer you

    7. I will be with you

    8. I believe in you

    9. I am for you

    10. I LOVE YOU

    Our entire church along with all our friends and family are praying for healing for Lucy and comfort and peace for each of you.

    In His Love, Jerry & Wanda Butler

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  9. My family had a very hard thin happen many years ago, an accident, it changed our lives forever. I can only in a small way understand the depths of what you’re going through. Your family is in prayer very often, from a few in the faith, in Indiana.

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  10. Dear Pastor Jesse and Bethany,

    I stumbled upon your blog via X. Even though we do not personally know each other I am thankful for the salvation that we share. My husband and I will be praying for you and your children. Words cannot begin to describe the grief that I imagine you are feeling. I pray that the Lord would make his presence known to you, and you claim to him in your darkest moments. I pray that God would protect you from the devil‘s lies and that you would hold fast to the truth of the Gospel. We will also be praying for your children and that God would supply you with wisdom to parent them through this trial. Much love to you from California.

    Sincerely,

    Elle

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  11. I’m praying.
    I believe in miracles and will hold you up.
    Hold on. It’s not over yet

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  12. I am so sorry to hear this bad news, I have not stopped praying since I heard about it, I have people in North Carolina and in Reno Nevada praying for her and your family and friends.

    I have lived a good long life, and I prayed to our Almighty Lord that he would take me instead of her and restore her back to herself and let her live a long great life with no complications. But I know that he does not do things like that but I do wish he would right now.

    dear Lord in heaven please hear my prayer, please save Lucy and bring her back to the way she was and let her live a long life and please do not let any child suffer with any illness or injury.

    please God answer my prayer.

    in Jesus name amen

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  13. Thank you for sharing this entire tragic story with your brothers and sisters in the Lord. I must trust that His plan is for ultimate good whether we understand and agree or not. Praise Him for His wonderful gifts of the church and also fellowship. We pray.

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  14. I don’t know you but I am praying for a miracle with you for Lucy. Absolutely heartbreaking. He will hold you (and her) fast. 🤍

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  15. Jesse, this is Mike Leahy from The Community Church (Kinnelon, NJ). We are grieving with your family, and your entire church family. There are no words for this unspeakable loss in your lives. We only have heartache, hope, and our prayers to give.

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  16. Thank you for sharing Lucy’s story in the midst of your extreme heartbreak. I have been praying for your family since I saw this blog post shared on Facebook by a friend.
    My son is the same age as Lucy. We have been talking to him about the gospel for years. Today, after praying for your family, I felt prompted to talk to him about salvation. Until now, he has expressed interest but hadn’t really wanted to be saved truly. I talked to him about heaven and how Jesus welcomes true believers (like Lucy) in to heaven. Without my prompting, he prayed by himself. I asked what he prayed and he told me he asked Jesus to forgive him and to change his heart.
    I hope it can encourage you that the Lord is already using Lucy’s story to bring people to himself. ❤ We are praying for your family. What a gift it is to know that she is with Jesus now.

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  17. Praying for God to intervene with a healing miracle that allows Lucy to stay here healed and completely recovered for a life-long testimony to Him. My daughter left for her heavenly home 1 1/2 years ago and the grief is still so deep and I miss her beyond words. Although I don’t understand why some things happen the way they do, I do know that God loves us deeply and does not ever forsake his children

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  18. My heart aches for you and your sweet family. I heard about yours and Lucy’s story from a fellow biblical counselor. Your willingness to walk through this gut-wrenching time with us, to share your thoughts and trust in the Lord and His provision is profound. I am weeping with you and your family and rejoicing in the comfort of believing that Lucy is in paradise in the presence of the One for whom she was created. I will continue to pray for you and your family as y’all walk this long, hard path. Thank you for sharing your life with us.

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  19. Although we do not know you, we share a common faith in our Heavenly Father and His Son, Jesus.
    We are so sorry for this shocking, sudden tragedy you all are experiencing. Your kindness and thoughtfulness to reach out with your story at this time is so very appreciated in that we can take your deep needs to Our Almighty Lord in prayer that you may experience comfort through His people and His Holy Spirit.

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  20. Our hearts hurt for you as our family read your blog here in the UK. We cannot imagine the pain.We are praying for you all dear family, as you journey through the valley, knowing Lucy beholds her Saviour face to face.

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  21. prayers sent your way from Massachusetts. My family went through something similar 8 months ago with our 7 year old son. I understand your grief and loss of words to explain how you. One thing I did learned about my experience is we walked by Gods strength not our own.My condolences to you and your family for your unimaginable loss.

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  22. I am thinking of you all at this sad time, the days and nights will feel so long for the next year or so but you need to be open and honest about your feelings with each other. Let people help and support you all as a family. I have read what happened at 5am, Manchester, England and feel so sad.

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